Tips for insecure people:)

Hi everyone!


I can't seem to fall asleep,hence here I am, typing out my thoughts at 3am:)

If you've been religiously reading my blog,you would have come to find that I blog alot about my boyfriend.... Haha which I think its mainly because I only blog when I have inspiration...and also that Jerome is my inspiration:)

Honestly,I love the feeling of being in love....the feeling of being on cloud nine..the feeling of having someone you love to talk to you whenever you need them. And another thing I really appreciate about my relationship is that I can fully trust my boyfriend...to be honest, Contrary to what people might say about me or feel that I am..... I am actually a very insecure girl...maybe its just that I always put on a strong front,such that people always think that im confident.
And of course, being a naturally insecure girl, I would somehow expect alot of reassurance from people...however,in the case of jerome and I, I found out that the security somehow comes naturally? Like okay,maybe Jerome has been reassuring me in other ways that I might not have taken notice of,but one thing that I realised about us is that we really trust each other... haha at least on my side,I really feel this way:) There is not a single day that has gone by, that ive felt insecure with jerome! Haha is this normal??
But oh wells normal or not,it definitely felt good....like C'mon, there are much more things in life to worry about right?

Thus, to all the insecure girls out there,if youre seeking advice on how to be more confident in yourself or yearn to have more security in the relationship, my advice would be that you just gotta take a bet and give your all and trust your guy:)
Girls being girls, we do get a bit paranoid once in a while I admit...esp when you find yourself falling helplessly deeper n deeper in love with your bf. But sometimes, worrying unnecessarily can cause issues and quarrels in the relationship too..Actually I think the guy plays an important role in providing the security that gfs need...the way he acts,the way he talks, and the way introduces you to people etc, can really say alot about him. Sometimes it might not be your fault that you feel insecure,maybe its just the way your bf acts that caused you to feel this way...If youre in this scenario, I recommend that you should talk to your bf about it,tell him what youre insecure about and try to work something out...
Always rmb, the fundamentals of a relationship is communication..without effective communication,everything crumbles.....

Hence the most impt takeaway from this post is that,sometimes you just gotta take a leap of faith and stop imagining that your guy is flirting or cheating on you the moment youre not around them. Even if your type of love comes with pain,it also brought about an impt lesson with it...Once you learn that lesson,move on,don't ever look back or make the same mistake again.....

People grow along the way, people change ,and people move on.

Best boyfriend ever!!!

hi guys!!!
Its been a really tiring week last week as i had work and camps and hence, i didn't get much time to blog.

Feeling really happy right now because....

haha, I'll show you guys instead

Been wanting to do the 'Girlfriend does Boyfriend's makeup' video ever since it became so popular recently and all the bloggers and vloggers seems to be doing it as well!:) 

you can find some of the videos here!

So can yall imagine how shocked i was when Jerome agreed?! Haha i was thinking about it the whole of today actually,and i asked a friend of mine,if her bf would do this with her....and her first reaction was like "my bf would never do this with me!"..... And so i got a bit hesitant about it and i don't know how to approach the subject with Jerome....haha and so i tried to drop hints here and there in our conservations and GUESS WHAT! HE AGREED:) YAYYYYYY!!!! I personally thought that it is not easy for a guy to do this for their girlfriends,esp since their 'manly' reputation will be affected or something...haha but I'm really really touched that Jerome is willing to try out my crazy ideas:) And for that, I can finally fall asleep feeling super duper happy tonight!

On a sidenote, Jerome will be away for camp for about a week :'(  Will be missing him so so so much again. But, oh wells! absence makes the heart grow fonder right?? Pat will be good and wait for our next date k? I love you so much Jerome!:) You really are the best!

God

Currently in the midst of Ntu catholic camp when I reflected during a sharing session when a priest told us that everything in life happens for a reason...there is a certain timing why everyone is in our life.He also told us to love freely...not to be constantly afraid of getting hurt and hence we often end up burying that deepest part of us within ourselves and not let anyone enter.

And then I came across this quote

About the part of deserving or not,I think most of us do not have a choice to demand the type of love we want.I think more often than not, we accept the love we think we deserve....and I'm really glad I found jerome:) cause I know,no matter how busy jerome is,he'll never fails to make time for me:):) 

Wells,I guess love is all about simplicity,if you love simply...and love your gf/bf with all your heart....nothing is impossible! And thats one philosophy that I've always believe in...

So heres a shoutout to all the couples who are going through certain roadblocks in your relationship right now....nothing is impossible as long as you dont give up...no relationship comes easily.It might be easy to lose track of where youre heading,but always remember this, these people are planted in your life by God..dont chase away the plans that God has in store for you....treasure people and you'll be their treasure....

With love,

Pattie 

I didn't know the chance I took could turn out to be something that beautiful

Back to blogging at weird hours!!!


Just saw this picture and I thought it is kinda apt to update:)

And tadaaa....

Ive finally found someone whom I've love very very much and im lucky to have him!

Jerome is really one of the most patient guy I've ever seen and he is also one of the most sensitive guys that I know as well.He never fails to ask me what I am thinking or how I'm feeling whenever I seem like im dazing into space. He also never fails to put me before himself....for example,theres once when he came all the way from ntu to changi so that he can meet me just for supper and then send me home after that. Maybe that explains why we are so crazy about each other! Im really really thankful to God for letting jerome into my life:):) 

I remember telling jerome about my bad habits and tantrums  and warn him that these could potentially be a stumbling block in our relationship in the future..and he gave the most perfect answer ever! He told me that maybe in the past I just have not found the right one yet and he assured me that all things will go well with us! How can anyone be more perfect than this right??

And right now,theres basically nothing else that I could ask for...ive got the most wonderful boyfriend,got into my dream university and ive got the most beautiful family ever...

and once again I thank God for blessing me with such a happy life:)

I LOVE YOU JEROME

Till next time

love pat!

Oh and just to add.......


Im on cloud 9! I don't know why,but i'm just really really happy..and to be honest I doubt I've ever been this happy before..So happy that I cant sleep

HAHA but I'll try to sleep now!beauty sleep is important to pat:)





Love you all earthlings!
Nights:)

Thoughts at 2.30am

Just got inspired to blog when I came across this article about a girlfriend running a marathon for her boyfriend that passed away not long ago. I thought that article was probably the most touching story ive heard this month...and coupled with the fact that one of my best friend recently confined to me that she is constantly afraid of her boyfriend leaving her for his ex girlfriend as he couldnt seem to get over her.


and here are my thoughts about relationship and love......
For some of us,we didnt choose the people that we love, we just can't..because love is a feeling that you cant control. It just happens... that explains why some people can fall in love with people that they detest.While for some, maybe for those who are not emotionally dependent, they can marry for money or even fame. But whats the point of being together with someone when you know that you wont marry him or her or see no future with your partner...I used to firmly believe in this and still do. I personally believe in being confident before entering a relationship..Yes each relationship does teach you some things and some relationships are just there to make you stronger or to teach you a life lesson.But sometimes I think one has to think further ahead in their lives...Do you wanna make memories with anyone or only with your husband? Maybe there might be different memories created when youre with different people...but why waste your time with people who eventually are not gonna be in your life,when you can give all your energy and effort to the right one?Hence it is impt to think logically when it comes to love too...love can be bind..but to be honest,if one is logical, it might not be that blind after all....and my only advice to my bestie,which I know youre gonna read this...is that..do what u must do to protect yourself and what you think is best for both parties....a love that is not suitable for two people will only end up hurting both parties...be wise and sometimes,theres nothing wrong with following your head instead of your heart.


Till next time
Love pat!